post #3 nov12-18

In the chapter the most interesting concept to me was the family life cycle. This cycle consists of seven stages. The seven stages are establishing, enlarging, and developing a family, as well as encouraging independence, launching children, post-launching of children, and retirement. This is interesting to me because my parents are going through these stages and I will soon be going through the same stages. Learning about these stages are very interesting because everyone goes through them but have their own ways of dealing with all the challenges that arise. I am learning from my parents about how to successfully fulfill all of these stages properly. My parents are launching kids right now, I am out of the house but there are five other kids at home. I will soon have to go through all the stages of the family life cycle. I have learned a lot from my parents and hope to have smooth sailing through al the stages. 

post #2 nov 12-18

In the next 50 years I believe that marriage isn’t going to last as long. I feel like marriage isn’t as important as it used to be, people aren’t going to be as committed. Being married won’t be as important anymore, people wont want to be married. I believe that people wont want to go through all the troubles of getting married and they will just want to stay as boyfriend and girlfriend. There is a lot more responsibility on being married, it isn’t a joke anymore. You have to stay committed to them and realize that you want to be with them forever. People will start having kids without being married and it will become a lot more normal. I honestly can’t even think about myself being, arrived because I know it will be different than how my parents are. My parents are married and so in love, I cant see people be that in love in 50 years. 

post #1, nov12-18

When I hear the word family the first thing I think of is those people you can trust that will always be there for you. The meaning of family is a group of people that you happened to be related to that you couldn’t pick, but they will be the closest things to you. My immediate family is really close and we love each other, there is a lot of criticism with my cousins, it seems like they can’t keep their mouth shut. Both of my parents are very supportive and don’t criticize my decisions. They do try and get me to set an example because I am the oldest. Family members are always supposed to be there even when no one else isn’t. I believe that you have to treat family better than friends because they are the ones that are there until the end. My parents partake in total marriage; they are both in love and spend as much time as they can together. 

post #3 nov 5-11

This week I found the topic of navigation the most interesting. Navigation is the process of staying committed and living life together. I think this is important in my life because I am currently in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I can stay committed but we really can’t be together. We technically live a life together but not actually physically together, we constantly talk and face time. We have our ups and downs and it is a let harder to get through it because we are fighting over the phone. Relationships are about the ups a downs, it not always perfect. Communication is really important in long distance relationships because trust is a big issuer. The process of navigation helps you realize that you have to be committed no matter what and know that relationships aren’t perfect and you have to love the other person if you want to keep going 

Post #2 nov 5-11

Commitment and love are both things you need in a serious relationship. I believe that love is easy to fake, but you can't fake commitment. My last relationship was long distance and love was present but there was no commitment. My boyfriend would tell me he loved me but would never make an effort to talk to me or to come and visit. My friends would always say that I was lucky because they could tell he loved me, but they didn't know how hard it was to have someone who didn't put the time and effort into our relationship. I believe that commitment is the most important thing in a relationship. When someone shows they're committed to you it can also show how much they care and love you. When someone is committed to you cheating and lying will not be present in the relationship, adding love to that relationship would make it a whole lot better.

Post #1 week nov. 5-11

In an online relationship I do not think it is ethical to misrepresent yourself to the other person. In both face to face and online relationships deception can be a factor, but online it can be worse because there is no one there to verify the information you put out there. You can basically create the person you want to be and no one will find out. In a face to face relationship it is easier to get caught in a lie. Online relationships are more dangerous because of sexual predators. Online you really dont know who you are talking to unless you know them in person already. People can also put fake pictures online and you won't really know who you're talking to. In high school a girl I knew made a fake Facebook profile using her cousins information and picture. She always had a good looking boyfriend and no one could figure out how.  When you asked her about her boyfriend she didn't know what to respond and she finally told everyone it was a fake profile and her boyfriend didnt even know what she looked like. 

post #3

The concept I picked to discuss in detail this week is pressures on friendships. There are both internal tensions and external pressures. Internal tensions are stresses that come along with relationships and interactions. Relational dialectics, diverse communication styles and sexual attraction are all part of internal tensions. Relational dialectics create tension because both people in the friendship have conflicting needs. Diverse communication styles is when a friendship is strained because misunderstandings when both people have a different cultural backgrounds. Sexual attraction can cause different tensions depending on your sexuality, when feelings arise in a relationship you need to let the other person know. External pressures are when friendships have pressure from outside sources. Competing demands, personal changes, and geographic distance are all parts of external pressures. Competing demands is when you have outside commitments that need your attention as well. Personal changes are when are friendships change as we grow, the experiences you go through in life can change friendships; no matter how close you are with the other person. Geographic distance is when both friends are in a different place; distance in friendships can ruin your relationship.

post #2

I have a lot of friends but my best friend is Jessica, we’ve been best friends since the 9th grade. When we first met she didn’t like me because I came from a different middle school than her. I didn’t know anyone when I started high school and it was hard making friends. When Jessica and I became friends we did everything together. We hung out almost everyday, and she became really close to my family. We told each other everything and trusted each other with all of our secrets. We got close with each other’s families as well. When we graduated high school I moved away for college and Jessica stayed home, so we don’t see each other as much anymore. In the book it says that trust is the main thing in a friendship and I totally agree. Since Jessica and I moved away from each other we have to trust each other even more. We also make time for each other when I go back home to visit.

post 1 oct 29- nov 4

I visited the friendship page and was really confused on what to read. In the advice forum I really didn’t find any friendship problems, all I saw were ads and links to other websites. I will just talk about the problems that arose in this weeks reading and how important they are to keep a friendship. Trust is a big problem that is talked about in this weeks reading. A whole relationship is built on trust and if there is none then there is no relationship. My best friend lives six hours away from me and we tell each other everything, I trust that she is not going to tell her new friends things I tell her in private. In this weeks reading it also talked about how you have to give time to your friends to hang out even if you’re in another intimate relationship with a boyfriend/ girlfriend. That is true because if you break up with that person your friend will be the one they’re helping you deal with it. Neglecting a friend for a boyfriend or girlfriend is not right.