Post 2 Oct 1-7

The fallacies discussed in the chapter are perfectionism, obsessions with shoulds, overgeneralization, taking responsibility for others, helplessness, and fear of catastrophic failure. Fear of catastrophic failure is what I struggle the most with. All my family lives in LA, so I am alone at San Jose State, when I think about my family I think about the worst happening to them. There was a recent tragedy in the family and that hasn’t made anything better. Using self-talk can help a lot with these fallacies. The fallacy of perfectionism is something that a lot of people struggle with. When I am going to make a decision I talk to myself a lot, pretty much talking myself out of it. We can use self-talk to reassure ourselves and bring back the confidence. Being more positive about situations will help me a lot with my intrapersonal communication, and not having fear of catastrophic failure. 

post 1 Oct 1-7

Organismic view of emotions is when we feel emotion because external stimuli cause physiological changes in us. An example would be if you get a bad grade on an exam and it causes you have a knot in your back. I have a lot of back pain in class, it could have something to do with a philosophical changes. When I am really stressed my back tends to start hurting, maybe if I didn't stress so much I wouldn’t have back pains. Perceptional view of emotions is when we give a meaning to something that doesn’t usually have a meaning. Everyone has his or her own meaning to different things. For example a fist, when someone raises a fist at me I think they want to "pound it", which means that we touch fists. It also can mean that someone is ready to fight. When it becomes significant people give it a meaning.

Post 2 week 24-30

After reading “Listening is a 10 part skill” I realized how important listening actually is and all the different ways people listen. I learned that while listening to someone speak you need to give yourself guiding questions to actually learn something and hear what they are saying. One part to listening is “judge content, not delivery,” this means that you listen to what is being said and not who or how they are saying it. This is very true because if an attractive guy were to be speaking to me all I would be concerned with is how cute he is. His words wouldn’t even mean a thing. I have a hard time with number 7, which is “resist distractions.” My main distraction is myself because I think too much; my thoughts over power my brain. If I am listening to someone and music starts to play I will easily be distracted and probably start singing the song in my head. 

Post 1, week 24-30

After reviewing the six types if non listening I realized that I use two of them in the way I communicate. Monopolizing, which is when you try and make the conversation about yourself and Ambushing, which is listening enough to gather information to attack the speaker; are both types of non-listening I partake in. Some of my friends have told me that I like to make the conversation about me, I really haven’t noticed but then they gave me examples. What I have tried to do is to think before I speak. It helps me realize that I was about to say "oh I do that too," or say something having to do with the word I. Ambushing only take place with certain people I talk to. I have a friend who always wants to argue, when I talk to him I keep my guard up so that I can argue back with whatever non-sense he is talking about. I really don’t need to fix this problem because I only do it to certain people and can control it when needed.

hate speech

By reading the article on hate speech, I know understand that hate speech is when someone talks down to someone by making false statements. It can be hate towards race, sexual orientation, age and gender, A lot of people are against hate speech because it causes hate and can cause fighting. I do not believe that we should try to fix the problem because it goes against the first amendment. Hate speech is everywhere, it would be really hard to fix the problem with just one rule change. With newer technology there are a lot of ways hate speech can appear. Social media websites allow people to involve themselves in hate speech without another person even knowing who they are. There is no point in trying to censor the internet because it wouldn't work. People should just try and stay away from a negative situation where hate speech might accure.

Post 1

I do not think that American Society is one big melting pot. I agree with Jessie Jackson that America is both a rainbow and a family quilt, because every culture is the same. The metaphor that i think describes American culture the best would be trail mix. It is one big bag full of different flavors and textures that just go together. The saltiness of peanuts, sweetness of the M&M's and the fruitiness of the raisins just all go together. Just like trail mix, the United States and the different cultures should thrive on their own but also be able to fit together and get along. I also believe that other cultures should make an effort to become accustom to other cultures to make the world a better place. I believe this is important so that cultures in America aren't close minded to other cultures and are open to learn about new ones.